Is it really bad if I opt to remain single all my life?

Is it really bad if I opt to remain single all my life?

It is really great to be single if you want to be one without any past experience haunting you. If you want to stay single hoping that it will bring an end to all miseries that love tags along then no. You'll be craving for love yet stay single for the fear in you and also turn down great men who would actually be wanting to be with you.
Your friends obviously don't mean that being married is bad , if it was so bad then they would have opted for divorce. Wouldn't they? Marriages do bring compromises but they also bring a lot of happiness of owning a family. Right now they are supporting you. As time will pass you won't have these friends to fulfill the space that is vacant. They'll have kids, a family, anniversaries and you'll probably end up thinking if it was right to believe that marriage couldn't bring happiness.

Staying away from love because you are hurt now is a great opinion. But taking a decision based on hurt that is temporary is stupid.
Your ex boyfriend who is your friend now(and also is married) will ultimately give time to his wife and kids. Stop imagining that you will always be in the picture. Priorities change with time.

After a while when friends will be busy, your bf will be busy, you will be left alone. If you are comfortable with the idea of being alone then fine, go for it.

All I think you need is a little time off love, maybe 6 months. Then try dating again, better men I will say. Get married to a suitable life. You'll heal. Breakups happen to everyone. that shouldn't stop you from having a great life thereafter.

One more advice to you. If that guy is getting married or already is to his parents choice, stop talking to him. I mean what kind of man is he for not being able to convince his parents to e able to marry you? And you are happy being a friend? Wake up!! If he really loved you he would have found a way out!!!

The former president and Missile Man of India Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam who was single throughout his life.

He was not only an Aerospace Engineer but also a nuclear scientist. Most of his works were highly acclaimed such as Satellite Launch Vehicle, Missile Development program and Pokhran-II nuclear test.

Besides, he developed a low-cost coronary stent with the collaboration of cardiologist Dr. Soma Raju. Basically, It was mainly produced to give better health care of rural areas in India. Later, it was named “Kalam-Raju Tablet.

Dr. Kalam wrote 25 amazing books. He worked for his country, people and society until his last breadth. He truly loved the people of his country, instead of loving someone special.

Interestingly, he shared in an interview that marriage will lead to responsibilities, children, and there will have selfishness, which may hinder to contribute his work towards his country. That’s the reason, he chose to serve his country and nation immensely, by sacrificing personal life.

He was extremely happy and satisfied with his his life. Moreover, he was also a motivational speaker, who inspired millions of young people to reach their goal.

So, being single is a personal choice and it is completely okay to stay single all your life.

I am not a handsome guy. But I can give my hand to some one who needs help. Beauty is not in face, just in heart. -A.P.J Abdul Kalam

Certainly it is not wrong. But our life revolves around others, whether we think about them or not. So in your case, I think there might be 2 case to think about.

1) Are family members okay with it?

If this is the case, you can certainly decide whether you need to be single or getting married. From my experienced around me and with me, I can certainly tell you that if you could not find right partner, life would be hell. One of my relative is really in trouble right now and could not do anything else. But with less frequency, you can even find happy couple who could not live without, ignoring minor incidents happening in life between them.

So let's say you have decided to be Single life time. Let us discuss and just think a bit about your life.

1. Money : do you have enough money in the account or do you have ability to have money on later stage in the life. Might be you need to insure not your life but health properly.
2. Health : Generally when we are not good in this criteria, we need someone to take care in the future. If your health are great, its okay. Otherwise you must have that arrangement in mind.
3. Sex Urge: How do you cope with this in future? Please think on that.
4. Friends/Relatives: When you are single, everybody will talk about you (in front of you or on your back depend on the person :) ). You need to be ready to ignore everything related to singularity and be happy. Also you need to make strong connection with some of them who would be available when you need them.
5. Books/Music etc: I believe that when you decide to be single, you need to have one or more hobbies to make your life beautiful. You should employ such hobby or hobbies to kill time when you are alone/stressed/depressed.

2) If your family members are not okay with it

You should decide to get married without a doubt. But to find a good partner is really tough in case of arrange marriage. So what I suggest is, you should live one or two days with partner virtually and write down what exactly minimum that you look for to have great tuning with partner. Whether it is looks, talks, degrees etc. Even you need to have enough time period to know her better.

But, I can say that Life is beautiful when you have understanding Partner and then Children :)

No. Not at all. To some people they prefer it. Nobody is forcing you to get married or have a girlfriend. It's your life, do with it as you wish. Ignore the nay-sayers...these days people will complain about everything. It's just like the Kid Issue. They are never satisfied. When you are in high school/college they say "When are YOU Going to get a Boyfriend/Girlfriend", then it's "When are YOU Going to get married." and then it's when are YOU Going to have a baby, and then it's when are you going to divorce that bum? Honestly, it never ends. Been t here, done that. Married 13 years. My Grandmother has been trying to set my 46 year old SINGLE Sister up with someone for years. She always refuses. She'd rather live alone, than to be tied down. To each his own.

Stay the way you are if you are happy.